Monday, August 31, 2009

Change is good...right?

Nothing in the world is permanent, and we're foolish when we ask anything to last, but surely we're still more foolish not to take delight in it while we have it. If change is of the essence of existence one would have thought it only sensible to make it the premise of our philosophy.
~~W. Somerset Maugham

My life seems a bubbling cauldron of change, with those Shakespearean witches chanting over me "Bubble, bubble, toil and trouble..."

So much change over the last few years, and not the little changes that we are all used to -- major, catastrophic, life upheaval changes. Writing helps, but really, some of the changes are so raw and so painful, or at least so mortifying, that writing them seems like ripping a scab off to expose the wound....perverse, and as painful as getting the wound in the first place. Divorce. Death. Financial challenges. Teenagers.

However, change is a continuum, and like anything you have in your life long enough and often enough, one can get used to change. Even maybe begin to embrace it. The Somerset Maugham quote above spoke to me this morning, reminding me that change is part of the cycle, and maybe the most necessary part. If we do not change and grow, we stagnate and wither.

I have much growing to do, as a person and as a writer, and I embrace the chaos. More changes will come, but I will try now to anticipate them, guide them, welcome, and maybe even seek some out. After many years of doing the same things over and over, living the same life day after day with none of the results or rewards I would have liked, I see only possibility ahead.

Maybe those witches merely salt the broth, add the spice that is necessary to direct us, rather than to thwart us. Either way, bring it on.

The final snippet: These are the glasses I would have if I were in control of my life (from Matt, who thought I would want to write this down, and who was right).


  1. Great stuff, Deb. Embrace the chaos. Right on.

  2. Your perspective and your eloquent words make chaos seem less scary, like looking at river rapids from afar and seeing the beauty of the flowing water rather than being in the water, tossed about on the rapids like a helpless leaf.

    Thank you. (Now back to my own chaos.)

  3. Coming from such talented folks, your praise means a lot to me. --d

  4. I've always always found that change, especially forced unwanted at the time change, has turned out to be my best friend. The realisation makes it just a tad bit easier to deal with when it comes.

  5. Some now-dead guy once said, "We shrink from change, but can anything come into being without it?"